As promised you will finally learn who is in the will. Sorry you didn’t make the cut. As it turns out the process was relatively simple. I put it off for years (I know…bad parent) thinking it would be very labor intensive. But as it turns out not having many assets really stream lines the process lol.
First and foremost I needed to make arrangements for Sharla should something happen to me. My will names my ex, Donny, as her guardian in the event of my passing and establishes a trust for her benefit. It also establishes a trust for Kasey. In both cases Donny is the trustee of the funds. The will also make provisions for my wonderful hubby, also Don, and my mom. The actual mechanics were pretty easy and I thank my handsome attorney friend Troy for assisting me.
The strangest part about writing the will is imaging the lives of the people you love..without you. It also made me wonder what connections people would maintain. Would Donny keep Don is Sharla’s life? When Don inevitably met someone else (way less awesome than me) would they have a relationship with Sharla. What about Kasey? He is not good about investing in relationships. If I wasn’t around would he stay connected to everyone else…or would he drift away? Some of the scenarios made me sad to consider. Oddly I also worried about how the information would be disclosed. If I died during the procedure would it be announced via Facebook? What if my last post was totally stupid…how embarrassing to have my final post be a meme or rant about dumbass Trump.
The process was also a bit of a rude awakening. At 46 I am VERY likely at least half way though this journey on Earth and while it seems sensible to write a will in the unlikely event something happen during my ablation…someday something will happen. I’ll die. That sucks.
Writing the will also highlighted the fact that I really don’t have the assets I would have liked to have by now. With six figure student loan debt from law school my net worth is pretty sad. And thank goodness I secured some decent life insurances policies a few years back because I am not sure, given my heart issues, I will be eligible for much more. Tip. GET Life insurance while you are healthy…OH and disability insurance too. More on that in another blog.
Another realization that came from the process was that I really don’t care much about my stuff. Don’t get me wrong I have a favorite print, framed pictures, decor items and a box (a large box of momentos) from over the years. There a some great photos in there….that include many of you from our …shall I say ” less responsible” days. In the end these are items that serve to bring me pleasure, remind me of good times or simply add beauty to my life. I don’t care what happens to them when I am gone. So sorry the reading of the will is going to be lame.
I feel like this post is a little more meandering than my others. But as always I appreciate your interest in my thoughts. Several of you have reached out to know if I am doing ok since the procedure. Spoiler alert. I didn’t die. Next time details on the ablation procedure and subsequent developments.
PSA – Be kind to your loved ones. Write a will.
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